Newsletter – August 2024 – Avoidance
This small article follows on nicely from what I was talking about in the last newsletter about ‘spiritual bypassing’ and the need to try and not avoid the more challenging aspects of our psyche. At least not all the time….
In many psychic readings I have done (also in some mediumistic ‘sits’), we have shined a light on a pattern of thought and/or behaviour in the client’s life that is holding them back from their own peace and contentment and now needs to either have some work done on it or allow it to express itself fully, instead of it being suppressed. The list for these is endless, but for example it might be a safety behaviour we do regularly, such as maybe closing ourselves off to the opposite sex both consciously and unconsciously, due to some challenging relationships in the past and maybe a difficult relationship with our mother/father. I’ve worked with many clients that have had such a difficult childhood they have learnt how to ‘escape’ both physically and in their ‘inner world’. While this served them back then, as it enabled them to survive, this pattern of escaping and moving on to quickly from pain has caused problems when they have gotten older. This aspect of patten and potential transformation is normally bought on from the callings of the Soul and a need for a balancing of the animal consciousness, but that is a huge topic and not one for this article.
Once we have shined a light on this and bought some of what was unconscious to the consciousness world, I have often been asked. ‘Ok, well how do I now start to heal myself of this, what do I do next?’ As you can imagine that is a big question and it differs from individual to individual. For some it requires an in-depth exploration of ‘Self’ through psychotherapy with a trained therapist, for others it requires them to be proactive in their life and for others it might event mean they become more passive. The list goes on and on. However, there is one thing we can all do to help this process and get it started, and something that will give you a great foundation to all parts of your life moving forward.
It is the simple act of saying ‘YES!’. Now to be clear this isn’t saying ‘yes’ to the outside world if someone is behaving inappropriately to you, this word needs to be replaced with something very different! This is for our inner world. When a difficult emotion or feeling begins to bubble in your unconscious, something that is making you feel uncomfortable, or if you are in the depths of despair with anxiety, anger or sadness, say this word to yourself either out loud or in your mind. A few times if necessary. There is enormous power in doing so, the reasons I will likely explain in a future newsletter. Be prepared that the discomfort might even increase, say ‘Yes!’, anyway. With some practice and effort with just that simple word you can start a process that has the potential to shift your awareness to even deeper depths. It can create a momentum of change in the inner world that then begins to move into the ‘outer world’.